Why I Felt AWKWARD at my Best Friend’s Wedding in USA


Hey everyone, Dana here! I’m an American. So going back to America is literally going
“home,” going back to where I’m from. So what could possibly be the big deal? Well, sometimes it’s just not as smooth
and seamless as it may sound like it would to go home. Sometimes that home changes while you’re
gone, or you change too, and then when you get home it’s different, you’re different. The first few times that I went back to the
U.S. after moving to Europe did feel like going home again. Sure there was a few bits of reverse culture
shock here and there – shock at the big cars and the big highways, surprised to see temperatures
in Fahrenheit again – but mostly small stuff like this, that kind of rubbed off within
a few days of being back in the U.S. But the longer that I lived here in Europe,
the more distance grew between me and the U.S. Because of course, like I said, I changed
some while living here in Europe, and the U.S. changed some. But for a couple years I think that I was
kind of buffered from this change because my parents actually moved to Colorado, where
I had never been before and didn’t have any friends. Which meant that when I did go “back home”
I was now going to Colorado, and I basically spent the whole time with my parents. So it was kind of like being in a bit of a
bubble. I was able to go back to the U.S. for a few
years without really ever feeling that shift because I just hung out with my parents the
whole time. But then after 6 years of living in Europe,
one of my best friends growing up got married in Florida, and so after years of not being
back to Florida, it was time for me to fly back to South Florida and kind of spend time
with people in the U.S. who weren’t my parents, for the first time in several years. I wasn’t “just” invited as a guest at the
wedding, but my friend also invited to the hotel suite in the morning and the afternoon
of the wedding to hang out with my friend and her whole wedding party, so her maid of
honor and her bridesmaids. Which was really awesome. I was really, really happy to get to be a
part of her day like that. But it was a little overwhelming, too. I did end up feeling kind of awkward at times. I was still really happy to be there, to spend
the day with her, but I definitely did feel a little bit like awkward Dana sometimes. So first of all, I had just flown into town
the night before, and so I still had this kind of weird aura of jet lag around me. I don’t know if anyone else gets this feeling when
they’re jet lagged, but for me, everything feels kind of surreal. And it’s like, it’s like it’s still kind
of hard for me to wrap my brain around the fact that just the day before I woke up in
Germany, and now, poof, suddenly 24 hours later I’m hanging out in a hotel room with
a bunch of Americans, just minutes away from the beach. There’s a pool outside. It’s really hot weather. It’s just this big change so quickly, and it
kind of leaves me feeling kind of foggy. Okay, so there was that, but then I also just
felt like everyone was talking so fast! The English was just so fast. And they were also using slang terms or new
terms that I had never heard of. I mean, I know that language evolves over
time, but I guess I just didn’t realize how quickly the language or the terms that
are used can change in a matter of years. I honestly, more than once that day, found
myself sitting there having no idea what people were talking about. And I guess it wasn’t just because of the
language, but also because of what they were talking about. I mean, I was out of the loop. I knew about a lot of the big stuff that had
been going on in the country, but apparently many of the little pop culture things, I just
had no idea. People were referencing stories and jokes
that I had never heard of. They were laughing and, I was just sitting
there like: haaaa, okay. Yeah, I have no idea what you’re talking about. But at least there was the music that we had
in common, right? Um, no. I listen to the hit music stations here in
Germany, which do play a lot of American songs. But, of course, they also play a lot of German
songs. And songs from other countries, which I also
really love. And so there are just a lot of American songs
that don’t end up being played on the hit music stations in Germany. Not all the American songs get played here
in Germany. So I didn’t know most of them. A song would come on, and then all of a sudden
the girl next to me is like screaming, like: oh my God! This is the best song ever! And then everyone was just up and singing
and yelling. Like, the best song! And I’m like smiling, but obviously not singing along
because I’ve never heard this song before in my whole life. And so it was just such a crazy experience
because, I mean, I was the same age as these people, one of whom had been my best friend
for years, and I had known her for more than half my life, and yet I didn’t know the
music, I didn’t know the slang that she and everyone else was using, and I had no
idea about the stories and pop culture references that they were talking about. Basically I think that I felt how someone
older might feel hanging out with a bunch of people in a younger generation. No idea what they’re talking about or the
music they’re listening to, the slang they’re using. Except I was in their generation, I was the
same age as these people. Just a few years before, I had been a part
of it. And now I was on the outside kind of looking
in. Or maybe not. Maybe I had always been a little bit awkward
and moving abroad just magnified the experience. So my question for you is: Have you ever experienced
anything like this? Feeling a little bit awkward in the place
you grew up? Please let me know in the comments below. Thanks so much for watching. I really hope that you enjoyed this video. And also a really big thank you so much to
our patrons on Patreon, who help make these videos possible. Thank you so much for your support. If you would like to check out our Patreon
page you can find a link to that down in the description box below. Until next time, auf Wiedersehen! Shout-out to my friend whose wedding I was
at. I wish you and your husband all the best. I miss you and I hope to see you soon. Feeling awkward in the place that you at one
point didn’t feel awkward in. I was out of the loop. I was totally out of the loop. Like, I knew…some stuff. But it was also a little overwhelming. And in the end, I did up, end up…I felt
kind of awkward! Hey everyone! I’m Dana, I… Already got a blooper within two minutes. Two seconds!

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