Day 05- Aren’t Wedding Planners for rich people?

(upbeat music) – Day five of the Bridechilla
30 days of wedding planning, and this is a video series
that really goes into all of the stuff, all of the stuff, that I’ve learned over producing, while producing 300 plus episodes of the Bridechilla
wedding planning Podcast. And I wanted to make
these videos to just like, really just like, bang bang bang, get doesn’t make any sense. Bang bang bang. Get into some of the key topics that go into being a Bridechilla. If you don’t know what a Bridechilla is, head back to the episode one
where I talk a little bit about what it means to
stay calm, keep controlled, and get what you want in a nice way without being an asshole. Today’s episode, I wanted to
touch on a really big topic, and this is, you know, these are just brief videos, and I highly encourage you, if you want to go a little
deeper into some of these topics, to go and search through
our Podcast back catalogue, because I do do episodes that
are specifically about each of these topics, but today I
wanted to talk a little bit about the benefits of
hiring a wedding planner or coordinator. And I will also just explain
briefly the differences between, between these
two different titles. Now, gone are the days
where wedding planners are like Frank from Father of the
Bride or J-Lo from that movie. the Wedding Planner I think it’s called. (laughing) That they just service the
needs of the super rich and wealthy people who they flitter around and buys thing and, you know,
create extravagant events. Really, the wedding
planners and coordinators that I invite to be on the
show and provide insight and value and information
to Bridechilla listeners are people that are
really in our price range. These aren’t extravagant hires. These are people that
provide a bunch of value and assistance to so many couples, and to be honest, I say
this over and over again on the podcast. I think the only thing we
regret from our wedding day, was not hiring someone to help us. I really have this super hero mentality, and often I’m right, that I can do anything. I can achieve anything. I’ve got it all under control. But when it came to really leading up, in the last couple of
weeks of wedding planning, you’ve got a lot of things to confirm. You want to make sure that
vendors are going to arrive on time, they going to do what you ask. Just make sure everything’s running. You’re making a timeline and
checklists are happening. There’s a lot of logistical
stuff that goes down, and also in the same space as a couple who are hosting a wedding, there’s a lot of people arriving, exciting events, dinners. You’ve got friends and family around, and you want to spend that time with them, not making 50 fucking
phone calls to 25 vendors and making sure they’re
turning up on time, and you know, putting out
any fires that may exist, and coming up with backup plans, which is really where we were very lucky on our wedding day that we
had a caterer who came in and just cleaned up a couple of our, not messes, not physical messes, but just things we hadn’t thought about, and they made it work. Now we were lucky, because
there were probably 10 other vendors that we could’ve
hired that wouldn’t have done that, and the
day wouldn’t have moved on as smoothly as it did. However, if we had had a
coordinator or a planner there to run through and make
sure things were happening, it probably would’ve been
a lot, a lot smoother, and we wouldn’t have had to do a couple of the more stupid jobs we ended up doing in the days in lead up to our wedding because we thought it would be
too expensive to hire someone when in fact, it would
probably would have cost us a thousand bucks, which is a lot of money, but for peace of mind, probably
wasn’t that much money, and things would’ve been ensured that they would have happened. Wedding planners and wedding coordinators. There’s an in depth, and I
will link to a blog about this, is an depth episode that we did recently on the podcast that really
goes into the differences between these two categories of vendors. But really the wedding
planner, when you are going in and spending a little bit more money, the wedding planner might
be someone that comes to appointments with you. They’re probably doing a
little bit more of the running around for you, booking things. Some wedding planners will
pay for things on your behalf, as in you pay an then they
work out all of the deals and contracts. Others are not into doing that. That’s totally up to the planner
that you’re working with. And then you’ve got
coordinators and for a lot of Bridchillas, coordinators
are who they end up working with, and that’s
because they still want to book things and be a part of
the, of the planning process and have some control,
but then it’s a matter of handing all that information
over to a coordinator. This is someone hopefully, you work with for two or three months, possibly longer, prior to your wedding day. And then they deal with
all the logistical stuff. They work out a timeline and checklists, making sure that if
anything happens on the day or in the lead up to the
wedding that isn’t great, they help fix the problem. The last thing you want to
be doing on your wedding day is problem solving, and to be honest, really good wedding
planners and coordinators, they have 50 million backup plans, and I’ve talked to so many
planners who have said, “Oh my gosh, the shit that has gone down on the day of some couple’s
weddings that I’ve been working and the couple had no idea.” And they are problem solving ninjas, just going and fixing shit for people, and then stuff works, and you know, the day moves on as no crisis has occurred even though it has is
where I think they’re worth their weight in gold. The other thing is saving money, because wedding planners and coordinators also come with their list, their little black book, their list of great vendors to work with, and these are people that
they are putting their name on the line to hire. They’ve worked with them. They trust them, so therefore
they’re passing on these testimonials and the value
and trust to you as a client, because they want to make
sure you’re happy and you get the best, the best of
the best when they’re working with you. So really this, this sort
of bullshitty stuff like, ‘Oh wedding planners are
only for rich people’ and ‘you don’t need a coordinator, you can do it all yourself.’ That’s true. I’m not doubting your skills, but if, if you have a full time job, and you want to have a life, and perhaps you’ve never
planned an event before, I had just, seriously when
we were getting married, the most people we’d
every had at our house, had at our house, was about eight people,
and even that I found quite stressful organising stuff for. So I just think you need
to think about how much you want to be involved, and then maybe have a
couple of conversations with planners and
coordinators in your area that you’re getting married. Ask your venue as well, and just see, assess them out. Go and have some interviews. I really, really encourage
you to explore this option. It’s not expensive in the long run and also there are so
many great coordinators and planners out there
that will make your day even better than you can imagine, and will help you with
decor and will help you find a great band if you want it. These, these people are amazing. There you go. I’m giving them 20 gold stars to wedding planners and coordinators. Also, I must mention that
we have the Bridechilla vendor directory. If you’re looking for a Bridechilla style vendor, someone that gets the ethos of what this community’s about and what we’re about, then
do check out the website, You’ll see our directory
listings and you know, we have, we’re attracting
and encouraging people that, that get us and want to help
Bridechillas create a day that is meaningful and memorable than it’s a great place to start. Also, all of are vendors
are LGBTQ friendly. They are, you know, reasonably priced. We, we just, they’re just great. They’re just great. There it is. Tomorrow, let me check my
list as to what we’re talking about tomorrow. I’m very very organised. Oh. This is one of my favourite topics, and I’ve talked a lot
about it on the podcast. The guest list. Three people that you can
ditch from your guest list right now. I’m not going to tell
you who they are today. You have to watch
tomorrow, but it is my pet favourite topic. And some of the most popular episodes of the Bridechilla Podcast surround the politics of weddings
and the guest list, so I’ve got a lot to say. I’ll try and keep it short. Okay. Many love and kisses to you. Happy days. (upbeat music)

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