Day 03- Does it really take a year to plan a wedding?


(upbeat percussion music) – It’s day three of
the Bridechilla 30 days of wedding, and, wedding? 30 days of wedding? 30 days of wedding planning. I’m Aleisha. I’m real and I make mistakes
all the time (chuckles). I’m the founder and host
of the Bridechilla Podcast. And hopefully, you have
listened to this show and you get that this is what I’m like, but my real driving force
in creating Bridechilla and the whole community itself is about helping you plan your wedding without losing your shit. And I’ve been pretty successful so far, helped a lot of people. And it’s a great place to hang out. The Bridechilla community on
Facebook is the place to be. If you’re looking for a
decent wedding planning forum that doesn’t contain a lot of assholes, then that’s where I would say to be. So today, I want to talk
about this weird idea that it takes at least 18 months to 24 months to plan a wedding. I’m really confused as to
where this really kicked off, because if we look at our parents and our grandparents and when
they planned their weddings, most of the time they planned weddings within six months max. It just seems to be our generation or maybe a couple of years
before our generation that really got bloodied
blindsided by this idea that it’s going to take years and years of your life to plan a party. Now, granted, sometimes
venues aren’t available. Sometimes you need to save money. I’m not saying that you have
to get married really quickly, but if you have the means, financial means and the will, you can plan a wedding really quickly. I’ve had the lovely Karley Kiker. She wrote a book called
Hitched in a Hurry as a guest on the Bridechilla Podcast a few times, and her whole sort of ethos is the fact that there are so many
great vendors out there, so many opportunities to find venues that aren’t necessarily the normal mainstream wedding venues. You can absolutely pull
off planning a wedding in under six months
without too much stress, and actually, I sort of think if wedding planning isn’t your scene. If you’re not enjoying this
process already or if you feel like this might not be something that you want lingering in
your life for nearly two years, then I would highly suggest looking at, or at least considering, planning a wedding a bit quicker
than you were expecting. I think one of the big things, women especially get a bit
stressed about, is this idea that you have to order a
dress a year in advance. Now, there are some places, some couture places that require that length of time to hand make, to style, to custom design a gown or a dress for their
clients, and that is fine. They are more than
comfortable saying to people, you realise this is going to take
eight or nine months to make. You won’t see your dress
until the end of the year, and a lot of people are fine with that. But also, there are so
many other opportunities to find fabulous dresses and so many independent
suppliers that will rush a dress. There are opportunities
to buy dresses secondhand or preowned or ‘pre-loved’ or whatever you want
to say it to feel good. I think it’s a really good
chance actually to save a bit of money and buy something really amazing that someone else has worn,
for six hours by the way. So really it comes down to this mentality that you have to plan a wedding and it has to take this
huge long length of time. Now, if you’re planning
a destination wedding where you are asking your guests and family and friends to come
and travel a far distance, or make a really big time
commitment or money commitment, then yeah, maybe giving them a year and a half or a year to
get the time off work and book travel and accommodation and make sure that they’re available would work well for you. But if you’re getting
married in your hometown and you got the venue sorted, you know where you want to get hitched and most of the guests are local people or at least not travelling
internationally, it could be really good plan
for you to plan something that’s in the next six to eight months. Also, it can work really well for budgets. People would think the opposite, but actually if you are planning to get married on a weekday, which is a huge budget saver, or if you’re going to
get married off-season, we got married in winter and I loved it. And it was great, because the
venue we wanted was available for three days in a row. We hired this beautiful house and our friends stayed over
and helped us decorate it, and we couldn’t have done
that in the summer months and such a short period of time. So it worked for us. But I think if you are flexible and you understand your limitations and your guests’ limitations, but also that you don’t have to be constricted to
this 12 to 18 to 24 months and be stuck in that wedding
planning zone for that long, and that suits you, then I encourage you to explore your options, because
there are always options. Never feel pressured, never feel like you have to jump in and make decisions or book something for 24 months down the
track when actually, you’re like, actually really want to get married next week. I’d love to get married this year. Don’t feel pressured. Talk, communicate, research, and see what’s available for you. I’m loving doing these videos. I’m doing 30 days, obviously
it’s called the ’30 days of wedding planning’ special,
and I’m really excited. I’ve got so many, look at all my topics. So many topics coming up. Tomorrow, oh I like this one. It is what comes first, the venue or the budget,
or the guest list? That’s a tricky one. It’s a really tricky one. But I’m looking forward
to talking about it. So until tomorrow, I highly encourage you to check out the Bridechilla Podcast, and also to join our
wonderful Facebook community, the ‘Bridechilla Community’, and if you’re in the market to
buy a wedding planning guide, a book, some way to write your stuff, then can I suggest the
Bridechilla Field Guide? It’s available at bridechillastore.com. Link will be somewhere around here. It’s a filler-outable field guide that you can put all your
information and here’s the thing. It has all the questions that I would suggest you ask vendors. Here we go. Venue questions. You go to the venue and you
take this along with you, and you ask questions. Hi, can we bring our own
cake or other food items? Can we? Do you have an option of a paid bar? Do you? That is the Bridechilla Field Guide. Until tomorrow, I bid you all a very happy and very gracious happy days. (upbeat percussion music)

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