Cindy and Jamiah: Families in Feud | Family or Fiancé | Oprah Winfrey Network


Cindy: SO, BAE, WE DOING THIS? -I LOVE YOU. -I LOVE YOU, TOO. I FEEL LIKE WHEN WE GOOD, I JUST WANT TO FIGHT WITH HIM. Y’ALL NOT GONNA EVER MOVE PAST IT BECAUSE YOU CAN’T SIT DOWN AND HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT YOUR BABY DADDY. Sparkle: WATCH WHO YOU TALK TO, LITTLE GIRL. DO SOMETHING, WEAK-ASS BITCH. Jamiah: HEY! WE’RE NOT DOING THAT. [BLEEP] THE MARRIAGE A WEEK AWAY, Y’ALL GOT TO GET IT TOGETHER NOW. Jamiah: WATCH YOUR PUNK ASS, GIRL. YOU ALWAYS GET MAD EVERY TIME IT’S ABOUT HIM, THOUGH. DON’T MAKE IT ABOUT HIM. BUT EVERY TIME IT’S ABOUT YOUR BOY, YOU GET MAD. — Captions by VITAC — www.vitac.com CAPTIONS PAID FOR BY DISCOVERY COMMUNICATIONS Cindy: ARE YOU EXCITED? I AM. A LITTLE BIT NERVOUS, THOUGH. WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR FAMILY, IT’S JUST CRAZY. SO IT’S GONNA BE INTERESTING LIVING WITH THEM IN A HOUSE. [ BOTH LAUGH ] WHAT’S UP? I’M JAMIAH. AND I’M CINDY. Both: AND WE’RE GETTING MARRIED! HEY! WHAT I LOVE MOST ABOUT CINDY IS THAT SHE HAS MY BACK. I CAN BE MYSELF, AND I DON’T HAVE TO BE SOMEBODY THAT I’M NOT, AND SHE ACCEPTS ME FOR THAT. I KNEW JAMIAH WAS THE ONE WHEN I SEEN THE CONNECTION THAT HE HAD WITH MY KIDS. HER KIDS ARE JUST ADORABLE, AND I JUST FEEL LIKE THEY MADE ME GROW EVEN MORE CLOSER TO HER. JAMIAH IS A PROVIDER. THAT’S WHAT MADE ME GO HARD FOR HIM. HE LITERALLY CHASED ME LIKE A PRINCESS, AND THAT’S JUST WHAT I NEED IN MY LIFE. I FEEL LIKE BETWEEN MY AUNT AND YOUR SISTER, IT’S JUST HARD TO PINPOINT IF THEY’RE GONNA SQUASH WHATEVER BEEF THAT THEY HAD. YEAH, THAT’S THE QUESTION, PRETTY MUCH. [ BOTH LAUGH ] WE’RE GETTING MARRIED IN SIX DAYS, AND OUR FAMILIES, THEY DON’T GET ALONG. MY FAMILY, THEY DON’T WANT TO COMMUNICATE. THEY DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS. THEY WANT TO YELL, FIGHT, ARGUE. HIS FAMILY, IT’S THE OPPOSITE. SO I DON’T THINK IT’S GONNA GO WELL. WE GOT TO FIGURE THIS OUT BECAUSE WE’RE GETTING MARRIED IN A WEEK. OH, MY GOD, THIS HOUSE IS SO BEAUTIFUL. OH, MY GOSH. IT’S A NICE HOUSE. HELLO. HI. HOW ARE YOU? GOOD. HOW ARE YOU? -CINDY? -YES. -I’M TRACY. -HI. NICE TO MEET YOU. -HI, I’M JAMIAH. -JAMIAH. WELCOME. THIS IS YOUR NEW CRIB, GUYS. HERE YOU ARE. GOD. THIS IS NICE. THIS IS YOUR LIVING ROOM. [ GASPS ] THAT IS BEAUTIFUL. THAT’S WHERE YOU’RE GONNA BE EATING YOUR MEALS. LOOK AT THAT POOL. ARE YOU READY FOR THAT? YOU NEED TO BUY ME THIS KIND OF HOUSE. [ LAUGHS ] NOT RIGHT NOW. [ LAUGHS ] MAYBE LATER ON. Tracy: HI, CINDY, JAMIAH, WELCOME. AND CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT. -THANK YOU. -THANK YOU. SO, YOU TWO HAVE A LOT AT STAKE BECAUSE YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED EXTREMELY SOON. A WEEK. A WEEK. YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED IN A WEEK. YES. I DON’T NORMALLY ASK THIS QUESTION, BUT WHAT MADE YOU WANT TO DO THIS PROCESS SO CLOSE TO YOUR WEDDING DAY? -AT OUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY… -OKAY. …THAT’S WHERE THE BALL DROPPED. AND WHAT HAPPENED? AT OUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY, EVERYTHING WAS GOING GOOD UNTIL WE STARTED HAVING THE SPEECHES. CINDY’S MOM WENT UP THERE. AND THEN MY AUNT SPARKLE HAD HER SPEECH. MY AUNT SPARKLE’S SPEECH, IT WAS LONG. SO THEN CINDY’S SISTER KIM WAS LIKE, “I THOUGHT IT WAS ONLY SUPPOSED TO BE TWO MINUTES.” AND THEN FROM THERE, IT JUST WENT ALL BAD. [BLEEP]. Cindy: EVERYBODY STARTED GETTING UP, YELLING, SCREAMING — A HOT MESS. YEAH, IT WAS CHAOS. I WAS LIKE, “OKAY, THIS IS NOT WHAT WE ABOUT TO DO.” Cindy: IT WAS LIKE MY FAMILY AGAINST HIS FAMILY. MY SISTER AND HIS AUNT HASN’T EVEN SPOKEN, SEEN EACH OTHER SINCE THAT DAY. WOW. WE’RE IN THE MIDDLE OF IT, SO WE WANT THEM TO COME TOGETHER FOR EVERYBODY COULD JUST BE CORDIAL WITH EACH OTHER. HOPEFULLY, BY THE END OF THE NEXT THREE DAYS, WE CAN WALK OUT THAT DOOR WITH THE SUPPORT OF YOUR FAMILIES AND WITH SOME UNDERSTANDING. WHO IS GOING TO JOIN YOU FROM YOUR FAMILIES? PEOPLE THAT ARE COMING FROM MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY IS MY AUNT SPARKLE, MY AUNT FINIS, AND MY DAD, JAMIAH SR. I THINK TWO PEOPLE WHO LOVE EACH OTHER BROUGHT US HERE SO WE CAN GET SOME THINGS HANDLED. BUT WE GOT TO GET IT HANDLED BY EVERYBODY BEING ON THE SAME PAGE. WHAT WOULD YOU SAY THE BIGGEST CONCERN IS THAT YOUR FAMILY HAS ABOUT YOU GETTING MARRIED? -I’M TOO YOUNG. -MM-HMM. ‘CAUSE I’M ONLY 24. THEY THINK THAT I HAVE, LIKE, A LOT MORE GO WITH IN MY LIFE. AND GETTING ENGAGED IS THAT — THEY THINK I’M TOO YOUNG. OKAY. THAT’S TYPICAL, RIGHT? SO, CINDY, WHO’S COMING FROM YOUR SIDE OF THE FAMILY? Cindy: MY SISTER SHELLY, MY SISTER KIM, AND MY SISTER BRE. WE ALL ABOUT TO BE IN THIS ONE HOUSE. WITH TWO CRAZY FAMILIES. [ LAUGHS ] THEY ALL HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM. THEY THINK THAT I’M MOVING WAY TOO FAST. I JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY KIDS’ FATHER. Tracy: OKAY. AND I’D BEEN WITH HIM FOR 12 YEARS. THAT’S A LONG TIME. YEAH, SO THEY JUST FEEL LIKE I JUST NEED TO WAIT, YOU KNOW, AND BE WITH JAMIAH A LITTLE LONGER, LIKE BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND, LIKE NOT JUST JUMP AND JUST GET MARRIED. OKAY. DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAD RESOLVED THE ISSUES IN YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MOVING INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH JAMIAH? -NO. -OKAY. SO THAT’S ANOTHER CONCERN. OFTENTIMES, YOU HAVE TO RESOLVE WHATEVER HAPPENED IN THE PAST RELATIONSHIP, OR YOU’RE GONNA BRING THOSE ISSUES INTO THE NEW RELATIONSHIP ‘CAUSE EVEN IF JAMIAH’S DIFFERENT, YOU’RE STILL YOU. CINDY, SHE’S SO USED TO, LIKE, ARGUING IN HER PAST THAT SOMETIMES SHE BRINGS IT WITHIN US, AND I DON’T LIKE TO ARGUE. DO YOU FEEL LIKE CONFLICT IS SOMETHING YOU GET INTO QUITE A BIT? I FEEL LIKE WHEN WE GOOD, I JUST WANT TO FIGHT WITH HIM. MM. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT’S ABOUT? IT’S ABOUT BEING AFRAID TO BE CLOSE TO SOMEBODY. SO, IF HE GETS TOO CLOSE THEN YOU WANT TO PUSH HIM AWAY… YEAH. …WITH SOME CONFLICT. YEAH. MY ROLE IN THIS IS TO HELP YOU GUYS NAVIGATE THIS PROCESS WITH YOUR FAMILIES. I’M GONNA GIVE YOU TASKS WITH THE FAMILIES THAT ARE GONNA HOPEFULLY BRING ALL THESE ISSUES OUT AND LET THEM SEE PARTS OF YOU THAT THEY HAVEN’T REALLY BEEN ABLE TO SEE YET. SO CINDY, YOUR TASK IS TO MAKE DINNER WITH JAMIAH’S FAMILY… OKAY. …TO BOND, TO BE OPEN, TO BE LOVING, AND TO LET THEM GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER. OKAY. JAMIAH, YOUR TASK IS TO PLAY “20 QUESTIONS.” AND YOU’RE GONNA BE AN OPEN BOOK. WHAT IF I DON’T WANT TO ANSWER IT? YOU HAVE TO ANSWER IT. [ LAUGHS ] AND YOU GUYS ARE GONNA SPEND THE NEXT THREE DAYS, REALLY, ON A JOURNEY. AND AT THE END OF THOSE THREE DAYS, YOU’RE GONNA ASK FOR THEIR BLESSING ON THIS MARRIAGE THAT IS TAKING PLACE IN A WEEK. THE STAKES ARE REALLY HIGH. YEAH. LIVING TOGETHER THREE DAYS IN A HOUSE WITH PEOPLE THAT DON’T GET ALONG, I THINK IT’S GONNA BE PRETTY CRAZY. I JUST HOPE EVERYBODY CAN BE ADULTS, THOUGH, AND SETTLE THEIR DIFFERENCES AND BE LIKE ONE BIG FAMILY, YOU KNOW? RIGHT. READY TO GET IT OVER WITH. I JUST HOPE THEY SEE THAT WE’RE NOT RUSHING. THIS IS WHAT WE WANT, AND THIS IS WHAT WE’RE GONNA DO. SO I HOPE WE HAVE EVERYONE’S BLESSING. [ DOORKNOB RATTLING ] Finis: HOLD ON. HOW DO I OPEN THIS? OH. [ LAUGHS ] Cindy: HELLO! Sparkle: HEY! HI! WHAT’S GOING ON? Y’ALL LIKE THE HOUSE? OH, MY GOD, LOOK AT THE DINING ROOM! IT’S DOPE. OH, YEAH! WE HAVE A LOT OF FUN IN OUR FAMILY, BUT WE’RE NOT THE TYPE THAT DRINK AND FIGHT AND DO ALL THAT. JAMIAH, HE’S MORE SWEET, AND SHE’S MORE STREET. IT’S GONNA GET REAL REAL AROUND HERE THOUGH, IN THE NEXT, YOU KNOW WHAT I’M SAYING, FEW DAYS, MAN. Jamiah: BIG FACTS. BIG FACTS. IT ALREADY GOT REAL. THE ENGAGEMENT PARTY GOT OUT OF LINE AND A LOT OF DISRESPECT. IT MADE MY FAMILY NOT LIKE THEM AT ALL. THIS IS NICE. WE ABOUT TO TURN UP. WE WANT TO HAVE A GOOD TIME. BUT WE KNOW THAT SOME OF THE FAMILY MEMBERS ARE NOT COOL. AT THE ENGAGEMENT PARTY, IT WAS A LOT OF TENSION. TOO MUCH. OUT OF CONTROL. All: HI! [ CINDY SCREAMS ] [ INDISTINCT CHATTER ] OH, IT’S REALLY NICE. Cindy: YOU KNOW THIS IS OUR HOUSE FOR THE NEXT THREE DAYS. OH, MY GOD! WHEN CINDY’S FAMILY COMES, THEY WALK, LITERALLY, RIGHT PAST MY FAMILY WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING. JAMIAH, WE’LL BE HERE. WE PUT YOU ON THE COUCH. Cindy: WHY? [ SMACKS LIPS ] WELL, THAT SUMS IT UP. I FEEL A TENSION IN THE AIR RIGHT NOW, LIKE MAN, IT’S GONNA GO DOWN. HOW DO YOU THINK THIS IS ALL GONNA WORK WITH US ALL BEING IN THE HOUSE? WE’RE ALL ADULTS, AND I FEEL LIKE WHATEVER PROBLEMS WE HAVE, WE SHOULD BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT AND WORK OUT WITHOUT EVERYBODY DOING HELLA EXTRA [BLEEP]. MM-HMM. Jamiah: I AM VERY WORRIED. YOU CAN’T BE IN A HOUSE WITH SOMEONE FOR THREE DAYS WITHOUT SPEAKING TO THEM. I SEE THAT SPARKLE AND BRE ARE SITTING NEXT TO EACH OTHER. WE NEED TO SWITCH SEATS. IT’S ABOUT TO GO DOWN. FIRST, WE WANT TO START OFF AND JUST THANK EVERYONE FOR COMING. WE’RE ALL HERE BECAUSE WE’RE GETTING MARRIED WITHIN A WEEK. SO WE WANT BOTH OF OUR FAMILIES TO BE ON THE SAME PAGE. SO, OBVIOUSLY WE HAVE ISSUES ‘CAUSE THE FAMILY DIDN’T EVEN SPEAK. SO WE’RE GONNA GO AROUND THE ROOM, AND YOU’RE GONNA STATE YOUR ISSUE THAT YOU HAVE WITH ME AND JAMIAH ON OUR MARRIAGE. SO, WE’RE GONNA START WITH SPARKLE. RIGHT NOW, YOU DO NOT HAVE MY BLESSING. I’M NOT ATTENDING THE WEDDING. A LOT OF THE FAMILY IS NOT COMING TO THE WEDDING BECAUSE THE TENSION THAT WAS AROUND THE ENGAGEMENT PARTY. SOME OF THE FAMILY MEMBERS FEEL THAT CINDY KIND OF SEDUCED YOU. AND — GIRL, BYE. LET’S SAY THAT. Jamiah: HEY. GIRL? LET HER FINISH. YEAH, GIRL. GIRL, YOU WATCH WHO YOU TALKING TO. GIRL, BYE. GIRL, WATCH WHO YOU TALKING TO. GIRL, BYE, AGAIN. GIRL, BYE, AGAIN… WATCH WHO YOU TALKING TO… …AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN. HEY! WE’RE NOT DOING THAT. …LITTLE GIRL. STRAIGHT UP. WATCH WHO YOU TALK TO. I’M GROWN. OBVIOUSLY, YOU’RE NOT. VERY GROWN. I’M VERY GROWN. LET HER SAY HER OPINION. DO SOMETHING. DO SOMETHING. DO SOMETHING. Y’ALL TRYING TO SPEAK, THOUGH. LET HER FINISH. WEAK-ASS BITCH. [ SIGHS ] OH, GOD. Jamiah: EVERYONE IN HERE IS ACTING LIKE THEY’RE CHILDREN. I REGRET EVEN BRINGING THEM HERE. LIKE, THIS IS CRAZY. IT MAKES ME JUST WANT TO LEAVE. -SHUT YOUR BIG-MOUTH ASS UP. -YOU MAKE ME! [ INDISTINCT SHOUTING ] [BLEEP]. YOU’VE BEEN MAD! YOU’VE BEEN HELLA MAD! [ INDISTINCT SHOUTING ] Jamiah: CAN I TALK, THOUGH? CAN I TALK? CAN I TALK? Bre: BITCH! YOU WEAK-ASS BITCH! Jamiah: CAN I TALK, THOUGH? CAN I TALK? CAN I TALK? I’M TRYING TO HAVE PEOPLE CHILL, AND IT’S NOT WORKING. IN THIS MOMENT, I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. WEAK-ASS BITCH. LET ME DO YOUR HAIR! Finis: I DIDN’T COME HERE FOR THIS. I FOR REAL DIDN’T COME HERE FOR THIS [BLEEP]. Jamiah: SO, I’M HOPING SOMEONE CAN SOMEHOW CALM EVERYONE DOWN AND WE CAN MOVE FORWARD FROM THE SITUATION. GIRL, SHE’S MAD. THAT WENT JUST LIKE I THOUGHT. IT WAS TOXIC CHAOS. ARE YOU GONNA BE OKAY? ARE YOU GONNA CALM DOWN AND BE ON A 5 AND NOT A 10? Bre: THIS IS WHAT WE WENT THROUGH AT THE ENGAGEMENT PARTY. THAT’S THE SAME [BLEEP] SHE DID. Tracy: HI, LADIES. OKAY, I HEAR THINGS ARE POPPING OFF OUT HERE. SO WHY DON’T WE JUST TAKE A BREATH, JUST FOR A MINUTE, JUST LIKE… [ BREATHES DEEPLY ] YOU GUYS HAVE A LOT OF STUFF BUILT UP AROUND THIS. IT’S UPSETTING. I KNOW THAT IT IS. BUT WE CAME HERE TO GET SOME STUFF DONE. MIGHT AS WELL GET IT DONE. IT’S NOT LIKE THIS IS GOING ANYWHERE, GUYS. AT THIS POINT, I’M READY TO GO HOME. LIKE… [ EXHALES DEEPLY ] EVERYBODY’S JUST GONNA HAVE TO FIND THAT CALM PLACE INSIDE AND GO THERE. BUT I’M GONNA TRY TO STICK IT OUT FOR MY SISTER. WHO’S WILLING? RAISE YOUR HAND. -OKAY. -I MEAN, I CAN GO IN THERE. BE RIGHT BACK. SHE OWE ME BIG TIME. THEY DIDN’T EVEN LET HER FINISH WHAT SHE WAS SAYING. THEY ALWAYS POP OFF THAT DUMB [BLEEP]. HI. I WENT AND TALKED TO THEM. I DON’T KNOW NONE OF THEM. AND WHETHER YOU KNOW THEM OR NOT, WE’RE ALL HUMAN BEINGS. WE ALL DESERVE RESPECT. I FEEL LIKE WE CAN GET THROUGH THIS. JUST LET OTHER PEOPLE HAVE THEIR OPINIONS, AND EVEN IF THEY’RE CRAZY, THAT’S OKAY. YOU HAVE THE POWER. [ SIGHS ] WOOSAH. SEE, I FELT THAT THAT. THAT WAS A LETTING-GO BREATH RIGHT THERE. I FELT THAT. OKAY, I’M GONNA GO GET THE OTHERS, AND WE’RE GONNA RESUME THE FAMILY MEETING. I WANT BOTH SIDES TO CALM DOWN. WE’RE ALL ADULTS. SOMEONE SHOULD BE ABLE TO SAY HOW THEY FEEL WITHOUT PEOPLE REACTING TO IT. Cindy: I WOULD LIKE SPARKLE TO FINISH WHAT SHE WAS SAYING. OH, WELL, ONE OF YOUR AUNTIES FEEL LIKE CINDY SEDUCED YOU. AND WHAT DOES SHE MEAN BY THAT? YOU HAVE TO ASK HER. [ LAUGHTER ] I MEAN, I GOT THAT GOOD-GOOD. [ LAUGHTER ] I’LL TAKE THE SEDUCE. I SEDUCED YOU? THAT’S WHAT THEY SAY, SO… I THOUGHT IT WAS A COMPLIMENT, HONESTLY. I THINK YOU GUYS ARE MOVING TOO FAST, AS FAR AS, LIKE, WITH THE WEDDING. Y’ALL BARELY KNOW EACH OTHER. Y’ALL JUMPED OUT A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. THEN Y’ALL JUMPED INTO THIS NEW RELATIONSHIP. I DON’T WANT Y’ALL TO JUMP INTO THIS MARRIAGE AND THEN GET A DIVORCE. Y’ALL GOT TO WORK SOME THINGS OUT. Y’ALL REALLY DO. I THINK Y’ALL JUST JUMPED IN THIS TOO FAST. [ CRYING ] I DON’T KNOW. AND YOU WAS ALREADY GOING THROUGH HELL [BLEEP] WITH YOUR BABY DADDY. SO I FEEL LIKE YOU WAS JUST MESSING WITH JAMIAH TO GET OVER THINGS. WE ALL THOUGHT THAT. [ SNIFFLES ] Kim: THEY CAME BOTH OUT OF… WITH BAGGAGE. …BAGGAGE RELATIONSHIPS. Jamiah Sr.: JAMIAH’S LAST RELATIONSHIP — THAT WAS HIS GIRL, YOU KNOW. HE REALLY LOVED THAT GIRL, YOU KNOW. AND FOR SOMEBODY NOT TO HAVE AN ANSWER TO WHY YOU’RE LEAVING ME, THAT WAS — THAT HURT HIM. Jamiah Sr.: SO WHEN YOU GOT WITH CINDY, YOU WAS JUST TRYING TO AVOID THAT HEALING THAT WASN’T THERE. YOU KNOW WHAT I’M SAYING? Finis: BOTH OF Y’ALL. THE HEALING SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED SEPARATELY ‘CAUSE IF Y’ALL CAN HEAL SEPARATELY, THEN Y’ALL COME TOGETHER AS A WHOLE. BUT Y’ALL CAME INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH BAGGAGE, TRUST ISSUES, FIDELITY. I FEEL LIKE EVERYBODY ON THE SAME PAGE, ON THE SAME LEVEL. AT THIS POINT, WE CAN WORK AS ONE. IT TEARS ME UP BECAUSE I WAS IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. AND IF YOU CAN’T GRAB AHOLD TO HOW YOU FEEL WITH YOURSELF, IT’S NO WAY THAT YOU CAN HANDLE MARRIAGE. I DON’T THINK Y’ALL READY FOR THAT. Cindy: THIS WAS NOT WHAT I WAS EXPECTING. BUT THEY DON’T KNOW, BEHIND THE SCENES, HOW THINGS WENT WITH US, YOU KNOW? THEY’RE BASICALLY JUST SEEING IT FROM THE OUTSIDE. HI, EVERYBODY. -HI. -HI. I REALLY WANT YOUR SISTERS TO UNDERSTAND THE WAY I FEEL ABOUT YOU AND TO KNOW THAT I’M GONNA ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOU. I JUST WANT TO SAY EVERYBODY’S DOING GREAT. THIS IS GOOD. I HEAR A LOT OF REALLY CARING FAMILY MEMBERS. I FEEL A LOT OF LOVE IN THIS ROOM, SO, OKAY, HERE’S WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN. I’VE GIVEN EACH ONE OF THEM A TASK. CINDY’S TASK IS TO HANG OUT WITH JAMIAH’S FAMILY. YOU’RE GONNA COOK DINNER, AND IN THE PROCESS, GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER BETTER. ALL RIGHT. JAMIAH, YOU ARE GONNA DO “20 QUESTIONS” WITH CINDY’S FAMILY, AND THEY’RE GONNA GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER, AND HOPEFULLY, SOME UNDERSTANDING CAN BUILD. WHEN TRACY GAVE ME THE TASK TO COOK WITH HIS FAMILY AND DISCUSS HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT ME AND JAMIAH’S RELATIONSHIP, I JUST WANT TO SHUT DOWN ‘CAUSE I ALREADY KNOW THE QUESTIONS THAT THEY’RE GONNA ASK ME, AND I DON’T WANT TO ANSWER THEM. ALL RIGHT, SO, YOU GUYS READY FOR THESE 20 QUESTIONS? GOING INTO THIS, I’M WORRIED ABOUT THE QUESTIONS THAT THEY’RE GONNA ASK ME. Jamiah: ALL RIGHT. WHAT AM I THINKING RIGHT NOW? [ LAUGHTER ] Bre: I ASKED THAT QUESTION. I STILL THINK ABOUT, LIKE, EVERYTHING THAT WAS GOING ON AT THE ENGAGEMENT PARTY, AND I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE THAT BECAUSE IT WAS A LOT. AT OUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY, I WAS SO MAD. IT WAS DISAPPOINTING TO, LIKE — FOR OUR FAMILY TO COME THERE AND JUST RUIN A DAY THAT’S SUPPOSED TO BE SPECIAL FOR US. EVERYBODY HAD THEIR ARGUMENTS, BUT I LOVE ALL Y’ALL, SO I’M NOT GONNA HOLD NO GRUDGE. I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE THAT BETWEEN NOBODY ‘CAUSE I FEEL LIKE WE ALL SUPPOSED TO COME TOGETHER, AND BEFORE WE LEAVE I WOULD LIKE TO SEE ALL THAT SQUASHED AND WE ALL BE COOL WITH EACH OTHER. Kim: AT THE ENGAGEMENT PARTY, IT WAS LIKE THEY FAMILY VERSUS OUR SIDE OF THE FAMILY. WHO WANTS TO BE IN A FAMILY LIKE THAT? WHAT’S MY FUTURE PLANS? MY FUTURE PLANS IS TO BE A POLICE OFFICER, ACTUALLY. THAT’S WHAT I’M TRYING TO DO AFTER THE WEDDING. THAT SECURITY — LIKE, THAT MAKES ME FEEL GOOD BECAUSE SHE DO HAVE A LOT GOING ON. EXACTLY. SO THAT’S WHY I ALWAYS MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. OKAY, CINDY, I GOT QUESTIONS. -OKAY. -AND I NEED SOME ANSWERS. WHY ARE WE HAVING A WEDDING IN SIX DAYS? BECAUSE Y’ALL FOR SURE GOT SOME KINKS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. I JUST FEEL LIKE Y’ALL NEED THAT TIME TO, YOU KNOW, SORT OUT WHATEVER ISSUES Y’ALL HAD. JAMIAH, HE JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP AND JUMPED INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP — AND SAME FOR HER. TWO BROKEN PEOPLE CAN’T NOT FIX THEIR BROKENNESS AND COME TOGETHER AND THINK IT’S GONNA WORK. YOU GUYS BROUGHT OLD BAGGAGE INTO YOUR SITUATION. YEAH. I FEEL LIKE RUSHING IT — I JUST FEEL LIKE, WHY WAIT? I GET THE “WHY WAIT” THING, BUT WE JUST LEARNED A LOT OF WHYS AT THIS LITTLE FAMILY MEETING. HAVE YOU EVER CHEATED ON ANYONE? YES, I HAVE. WHEN ME AND CINDY FIRST STARTED DATING, I WAS BASICALLY DOING THINGS I SHOULDN’T HAVE DID, AND I REGRET IT BECAUSE WHEN I SEEN HER HURT, IT HURT ME. SO I KNEW LIKE, DAMN, I SHOULDN’T BE DOING THIS ‘CAUSE I DON’T WANT TO LOSE THE PERSON THAT I LOVE SO MUCH. -RIGHT. -EXACTLY. SO THAT’S WHY I… [ SNIFFLES ] Shelly: YOU A LITTLE CRY-BABY JUST LIKE ME. [ LAUGHS ] -TOLD YOU. CRY-BABY. -Y’ALL TWINS. [ LAUGHTER ] HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN YOUR SISTERS POP OFF, BE READY TO FIGHT? THAT’S JUST HOW THEY ARE. I MEAN, I’M LIKE THAT, TOO. WE KNOW Y’ALL GOT TO TOUCH THE FIRE TO KNOW SOME [BLEEP] HOT. WE UNDERSTAND THAT, BUT WHEN SOMEBODY GIVING YOU WISE ADVICE, SOME OF THAT [BLEEP], YOU GOT TO TAKE HEED TO. Sparkle: Y’ALL NEED TO GO TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING. [ LAUGHS ] DAMN, WE NEED COUNSELING, TOO? YES! Finis: Y’ALL BOTH PUSH EACH OTHER TO A LEVEL. AND Y’ALL GOT TO UNDERSTAND — BUT HE DID, LIKE, SOME [BLEEP], Y’ALL. I UNDERSTAND. YEAH, HE MADE ME GO THAT FAR. I’M PRETTY SURE HE LEARNED. OH, HE LEARNED. HE A LITTLE PUPPY NOW. [ LAUGHTER ] HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT CINDY CO-PARENTING? I’M STILL ON THE IFFY SIDE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE’S HIDING STUFF SOMETIMES. ME AND CINDY HAD A BIG ARGUMENT. AND CINDY SENT HIM A TEXT MESSAGE ASKING HIM DID HE WANT TO BE WITH HER. AND I’M LOOKING AT THIS LIKE, “WHAT?” I DON’T KNOW, I FEEL LIKE SHE JUST THROW THINGS UNDER THE RUG WHEN I SEE HER DOING THINGS. IT’S LIKE IT’S OKAY, BUT THEN IF I DO SOMETHING, IT’S WORLD WAR 3. I DON’T LIKE CONFLICT. I’M NOT A PERSON THAT LIKES TO ARGUE, AND ONLY TIME I GET INTO ARGUMENTS IS IF I KEEP GETTING PUSHED AND PUSHED AND PUSHED AND PUSHED. I LIKE TO HOLD A LOT OF STUFF IN. I DON’T LIKE TO TALK ABOUT, LIKE, HOW I FEEL ABOUT STUFF. THAT’S JUST NOT HOW I AM. SO THEN, WHEN YOU ALL SEE, LIKE, ME FIGHTING WITH CINDY, [ VOICE BREAKING ] IT’S NOT ME TRYING TO BE MEAN TO HER. Shelly: I KNOW. JAMIAH, I KNOW THAT YOU LOVE AND YOU CARE ABOUT MY SISTER. I JUST REALLY WANT Y’ALL TO WORK ON TRUSTING EACH OTHER. IT’S NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT. YOU KNOW, I’M MARRIED. LIKE, THAT’S NOT COOL. Y’ALL NOT EVEN MARRIED YET. Shelly: JAMIAH REALLY CARES ABOUT MY SISTER CINDY, BUT WHEN IT COMES TO CERTAIN THINGS… THEY DON’T TRUST EACH OTHER, AT ALL. SO HOW COULD YOU MARRY SOMEBODY THAT YOU DON’T TRUST? WALKING AWAY FROM A PROBLEM IS GONNA MAKE IT WORSE. AND THAT’S GONNA MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP MORE TOXIC. Cindy: THIS FOOD ACTUALLY NEED A REAL BLESSING, FOR REAL. Sparkle: WHO’S DOING THE GRACE? -I’M-A DO THE GRACE. -LET HIM DO THE GRACE. YOU GOT TO BE SERIOUS. EVERYBODY HOLD HANDS, FOR REAL. LET’S GO. LET’S PRAY. GOD, I WOULD LIKE TO BLESS THIS FOOD AND BLESS CINDY AND ‘MIAH ON THEY JOURNEY THAT THEY GOT AHEAD OF THEM. AMEN. All: AMEN. AFTER TALKING TO TRACY, I’M TRYING TO BE CORDIAL. YOU KNOW, IT JUST CAME BACK TO ME, WHAT I’M HERE FOR. I’M HERE FOR JAMIAH AND CINDY. SO, HOW WAS YOUR COOKOUT? DID Y’ALL GET TO KNOW CINDY MORE? I FEEL LIKE IT WAS GREAT. I GOT TO VOICE MY CONCERNS. AND SHE LISTENED. THAT’S GOOD. OUR “20 QUESTIONS,” WE LEARNED A LOT ABOUT JAMIAH. HE SAID A LOT OF THINGS THAT I DIDN’T KNOW HOW HE FELT. AND I FEEL LIKE HE SHOULD START BRINGING CINDY AROUND HIS FAMILY SO EVERYBODY CAN REALLY GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER. I FELT LIKE, I DON’T WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH HIS FAMILY. SHE DON’T EVER WANT TO. I JUST FEEL LIKE WHEN I COME AROUND HIS FAMILY, I DON’T FEEL… I DON’T FEEL WELCOME. SO… REALLY? REALLY. HE DON’T COME AROUND AS MUCH AS HE SHOULD, AND WE WANT YOU TO COME, TOO. I DO WANT TO TAKE THE CHANCE TO GET TO KNOW Y’ALL, AND VICE VERSA. WE SHOULD. WE ‘BOUT TO BE JOINED FAMILIES. I FEEL LIKE THAT’S WHY IT WENT OFF THE WRONG WAY. AGREED. Cindy: THINGS FEEL LIGHTER IN THE HOUSE, AND I FEEL LIKE PEOPLE ACTUALLY LET THEIR GUARD DOWN. THEY GOT TO GET EVERYTHING OFF THEIR CHEST AND THEY GOT TO HEAR EACH OTHER, BUT HONESTLY, I DON’T KNOW IF I’M GONNA BE TO DEAL WITH THIS FOR THREE DAYS. ARE YOU READY TO DO THE WORK? I’M READY TO DO THE WORK, BUT IT’S GONNA BE HARD. ‘MIAH, YOU KNOW Y’ALL SLEEP ALIKE? HE SOUND LIKE A GRIZZLY BEAR LIKE YOU. I DON’T SNORE NO MORE, THOUGH. I ALMOST THREW A PILLOW AT HIM. Sparkle: I ALMOST KICKED HIM OUT. SHE WAS SNORING LAST NIGHT. Bre: WHAT IS YOU EATING? Sparkle: A GRAPE. YOU WANT ONE? OPEN YOUR MOUTH LIKE THAT. NO. -[ LAUGHS ] COME ON, SPARKLE. -NO. SHELLY, LET ME SEE IF I CAN MAKE IT. GO. WHY WOULD YOU THROW IT THAT FAR? [ LAUGHTER ] Kim: AND YOU KNOW SHE GON’ DO IT. HI. HAVE A SEAT. HOW ARE YOU? WE’RE ACTUALLY DOING REALLY WELL. ONCE EVERYBODY JUST HEARD EACH OTHER, THEY KIND OF ALL FELT THE SAME WAY. I’M REALLY GLAD TO HEAR IT. -ME, TOO. -LET’S TALK ABOUT TRUST. SO, IT FEELS LIKE ANOTHER ONE OF THE ISSUES THAT THE FAMILIES HAVE IS THAT THEY FEEL LIKE YOU TWO DON’T REALLY TRUST EACH OTHER ENOUGH TO WALK DOWN THE AISLE. AND I UNDERSTAND THERE ARE A FEW ISSUES. LET’S START WITH YOUR EX BECAUSE THAT FEELS LIKE A BIG ONE. THERE HAVE BEEN SOME TEXTS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR EX THAT HAVE MADE JAMIAH UNCOMFORTABLE. EVERY TIME I SPEAK WITH HIM, IT’S ABOUT MY KIDS. IS THAT TRUE? AT FIRST, IT WASN’T ABOUT THE KIDS. WHAT TEXTS ARE WE TALKING ABOUT? ARE WE TALKING ABOUT TEXTS IN THE PAST, OR ARE WE TALKING ABOUT TEXTS RIGHT NOW? WE’RE TALKING ABOUT IN GENERAL. THEY’RE ABOUT THE KIDS. Cindy: BEFORE THIS, WE BOTH AGREED THAT WE WOULDN’T BRING UP THE PAST OR MY EX. I’M AFRAID BECAUSE I DON’T WANT PEOPLE TO JUDGE ME FROM MY PAST. WHY DON’T YOU TELL ME, JAMIAH? HE AIN’T HERE, SO LET’S NOT TALK ABOUT HIM. BUT IT’S CAUSING PROBLEMS NOW BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH YOU GUYS ARE GOING, “OH, THAT’S NOT A PROBLEM,” THE FAMILY MEMBERS ARE LIKE, “MM, THAT’S A PROBLEM.” WHAT HAPPENED? WE JUST HAD, LIKE, A LITTLE ARGUMENT, RECENTLY. SHE JUST CHANGED THE NAME TO A FEMALE’S NAME. IN HER PHONE? YEAH. I DID, AND I DID IT ON PURPOSE. WHY? BECAUSE OF WHAT HE DID ON SNAPCHAT. WHAT DID YOU DO ON SNAPCHAT? SHE’S SEEN MESSAGES OF ME ASKING A GIRL WHAT SHE WAS DOING, SO SHE TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO GET BACK AT ME. SO, YOU’RE THINKING THIS IS, LIKE, A WAY THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BEHAVE IN A MARRIAGE? I USUALLY DON’T RETALIATE BECAUSE THAT’S WHY MY LAST RELATIONSHIP DIDN’T WORK. WHY NOT? ‘CAUSE WE WAS PLAYING TIT-FOR-TAT. SO I ALREADY TOLD HIM I WASN’T GONNA DO THAT IN THIS RELATIONSHIP… BUT YOU DID IT. I DID ONE TIME. OKAY. WHEN WAS THAT? THIS WAS LAST WEEK. THAT’S NOT VERY LONG AGO. YEP. SO, CAN YOU SEE HOW YOUR SISTERS WOULD BE LIKE, “OOH, TIME OUT. I’M NOT SO SURE ABOUT THAT.” YEAH, I CAN SEE THAT. I FEEL LIKE THAT’S THEIR MAIN MESSAGE TO YOU, IS HOW FAST IT’S GONE. I WANT TO GET MARRIED NOW, SO I’M GONNA GET MARRIED NOW. IT’S VERY TEMPTING TO THINK THAT YOU’RE GONNA GET MARRIED AND THE ISSUES ARE GONNA GO AWAY. IT’S THE EXACT OPPOSITE. CINDY, THEY’RE YOUR SISTERS. YOU HAVE TO HEAR THEM. I DON’T REALLY CARE WHAT THEY THINK OR WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY. BUT OPENING YOUR HEART TO EVERYTHING EVERYBODY IN YOUR FAMILY HAS TO SAY, THAT’S KIND OF PART OF YOUR WORK. I’M JUST REALLY UPSET WITH JAMIAH BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE HE SHOULD HAVE NEVER BROUGHT MY BABY DADDY UP. HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT CINDY CO-PARENTING? I’M ON THE IFFY SIDE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE’S HIDING STUFF SOMETIMES. YOU READY? Both: YES. I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY WE WE’RE EVEN TALKING ABOUT HIM. HE’S IN THE PAST. LIKE, THAT [BLEEP] JUST MADE ME HELLA MAD. SO, WHAT’D JAMIAH DO TO YOU? ‘CAUSE YOU LOOK MAD. HE CAN KISS MY ASS. [ LAUGHS ] SAY HE WANT TO KEEP BRINGING UP THE PAST. I AIN’T SAYING [BLEEP] ABOUT WHAT YOU DID, BUT YOU WANT TO BRING UP MY BABY DADDY. LIKE, WE NOT TALKING ABOUT HIM. WHY YOU EVEN MAD ABOUT SOMETHING I GOT A QUESTION — DON’T TALK TO ME. HEY. I GOT ASKED A QUESTION ABOUT THAT, SO WHY BE MAD ABOUT IT? I DON’T GIVE A [BLEEP]! WHY WOULD YOU BRING HIM UP? HE GOT BROUGHT UP TO ME, THOUGH! HE AIN’T GOT [BLEEP] TO DO WITH THE [BLEEP] GOING ON. YOU GOT SALTY-ASS FEELINGS ABOUT HIM. SHUT THE [BLEEP] UP. YOU’RE HELLA MAD. YOU’RE HELLA [BLEEP] MAD OVER HIM. WHY ARE YOU SO INSECURE? WELL, THEY ASKED ME THAT. GO LOOK AT THE QUESTIONS, BRO. YOU WANTED EVERYBODY TO [BLEEP] KNOW. WATCH YOUR PUNK ASS, GIRL. YOU ALWAYS GET MAD EVERY TIME IT’S ABOUT HIM, THOUGH. YOU MAKE IT ABOUT HIM! BUT EVERY TIME IT’S ABOUT YOUR BOY, YOU GET MAD. IT WAS MORE GOOD IN MY LIFE THAT JAMIAH HAS DONE FOR ME THAN MY BABY DADDY HAS EVER DONE FOR ME. SO ARE YOU THINKING I’M ABOUT TO GO BACK AND GET TREATED LIKE [BLEEP]? I DIDN’T RAISE YOU. I WAS GOING IN AND OUT OF JAIL. I JUST FEEL LIKE IT’S, LIKE, A LOT OF STUFF YOU MISSED OUT ON. I WANT YOU TO BE BETTER THAN ME. YOU KNOW WHAT I’M SAYING? YEAH. [ INDISTINCT SHOUTING ] YOU ALWAYS GET MAD EVERY TIME IT’S ABOUT HIM, THOUGH! YOU MAKE IT ABOUT HIM! BUT EVERY TIME IT’S ABOUT YOUR BOY, YOU GET MAD. YOU MAKE IT ABOUT HIM! EVERY TIME! NOW YOU’RE MAD ‘CAUSE I TOLD THE TRUTH. YOU BETTER SHUT UP. YOU SHUT UP. YOU THINK YOU SO PERFECT, BRO. I JUST TOLD YOU. COME HERE. LET ME TALK TO YOU. NO. YOU DON’T WANT TO TALK? Jamiah: WHEN IT GET ABOUT HER BABY DADDY, SHE SHUT DOWN, THOUGH, DON’T WANT TO SAY NOTHING. SHUT THE [BLEEP] UP. Jamiah Sr.: COME ON. THAT’S UNNECESSARY, THOUGH. COME ON, NOW. STOP TALKING TO ME. GO AHEAD AND GO CRY, BROTHER. STOP DOING THAT THOUGH, BRO. YOU GOT TO LEARN HOW TO TALK. LIKE, “BABY,” LIKE THAT. YOU’RE COMING IN HERE ON RAH-RAH [BLEEP], THOUGH. Jamiah Sr.: I FEEL THAT CINDY AND JAMIAH SHOULDN’T GET MARRIED, LIKE, RIGHT NOW. THEY NEED TO GROW UP AND FIX A LOT OF THINGS IN ORDER TO HAVE A BLESSED MARRIAGE. IF Y’ALL GONNA TRY TO MAKE THIS WORK, JAMIAH, Y’ALL GOT TO GET IT TOGETHER NOW. LOOK, THIS IS THE THING. YOU GOT TO PUT YOURSELF IN HIS SITUATION. WHAT IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY AROUND AND HE HAD A BABY MAMA AND HE DID THAT? IT’D MAKE IT LOOK FUNNY. IT’D MAKES IT LOOK LIKE YOU’RE HIDING SOMETHING. WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND IS I DID IT ON PURPOSE. I KNOW. IT WAS TIT-FOR-TAT. WHY? BECAUSE HE’S INSECURE ABOUT MY BABY DADDY. I DON’T KNOW WHAT IT IS. BUT IT DON’T MATTER. YOU CANNOT DO THAT. OKAY, I UNDERSTAND THAT I WAS WRONG. SO WHY YOU CAN’T SIT DOWN AND HAVE A TALK TO HIM SO HE CAN TELL YOU HOW HE FEEL, SO HE CAN GET IT OFF HIS CHEST? -I DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT HIM. -BUT THAT’S NOT RIGHT. YOU HAVE TO. YOU’RE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED. I DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT BECAUSE HE AIN’T GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH WHAT WE GOT GOING ON. YES, HE DO. Kim: HER PAST RELATIONSHIP IS JUST A SENSITIVE SITUATION FOR HER, AND SHE DON’T LIKE TO ADDRESS IT. SHE BEEN HOLDING BACK FROM DAY ONE. BUT THIS IS WHAT WE CAME HERE FOR. YOU HAVE TO TALK ABOUT IT CAUSE HOW ARE YOU GONNA GET PAST IT IF YOU CAN’T TALK ABOUT IT? I DON’T CARE ABOUT WHAT HE DID. I’VE MOVED PAST IT. NO, Y’ALL ARE NOT. Y’ALL ARE NOT GONNA EVER MOVE PAST IT BECAUSE YOU CAN’T SIT DOWN AND HAVE A CONVERSATION ABOUT YOUR BABY DADDY WITH HIM. WITHOUT BLOWING UP. THAT’S NUMBER ONE — WITHOUT GETTING MAD. BECAUSE I DON’T LIKE TO TALK ABOUT IT. WHY? BECAUSE I DON’T. Jamiah: SO, WHAT’S UP, MAN? ARE YOU REALLY HONESTLY READY TO GET MARRIED, BRO? I AM. BUT HOW ARE YOU READY TO GET MARRIED IF YOU SITTING UP HERE ARGUING AND FIGHTING? DON’T LET YOUR ANGER OVERLOAD WHAT Y’ALL RELATIONSHIP IS REALLY ABOUT, BECAUSE YOU SAY [BLEEP] WHEN YOU’RE MAD THAT YOU REALLY DON’T MEAN. THAT AIN’T COOL, MAN. THAT [BLEEP] THAT JUST HAPPENED UP THERE, BRAH, I REALLY DON’T APPROVE OF THAT, DAWG. COME ON, BRO. Y’ALL DON’T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE. IT AIN’T THAT BIG. YOU JUST BEING SO DAMN STUBBORN THAT YOU DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT, AND THAT’S NOT FAIR. LIKE, DO YOU REALLY WANT TO GET MARRIED? IT’S A LOT THAT COME WITH WHEN YOU GET MARRIED. WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED TO GET A DIVORCE? I THINK IT’S TOO FAST, AND I REALLY THINK CINDY SHOULD WAIT. IT LOOKED LIKE YOU NOT READY. EVERYTHING YOU’RE DOING, THEY SAYING YOU ACT JUST LIKE ME, BRO, EVEN THOUGH I DIDN’T RAISE YOU LIKE I SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE TO RAISE YOU BECAUSE OF WHAT I WAS GOING THROUGH, IN AND OUT OF JAIL, DOING THIS, DOING THAT, YOU KNOW, AND BEING IN THE STREETS. YOU KNOW WHAT I’M SAYING? I WASN’T THERE FOR YOU. I JUST FEEL LIKE IT’S, LIKE, A LOT OF STUFF YOU MISSED OUT ON. YOU WASN’T THERE FOR MY GRADUATION, NONE OF MY FOOTBALL GAMES, LIKE, STUFF THAT I WANTED MY DAD TO BE AT. AND YOU WASN’T THERE. THAT’S JUST SOMETHING I ALWAYS HOLD [SNIFFLES] WITHIN MYSELF. MAN, I UNDERSTAND ALL THAT, BUT I WANT YOU TO BE BETTER THAN ME. YOU KNOW WHAT I’M SAYING? I DON’T WANT YOU TO BE THE WAY THAT I WAS. YOU KNOW WHAT I’M SAYING? YEAH. WHEN YOU GO BACK IN THAT HOUSE, I WOULD LIKE YOU TO START BY JUST APOLOGIZING, NOT TO JUST CINDY BUT EVERYBODY, ‘BOUT THE WAY YOU ACTED. IF YOU CAN DO THAT, WE CAN TAKE THEM EXTRA STEPS IN HELPING YOU GET YOUR RELATIONSHIP FIXED. YOU UNDERSTAND WHERE I’M COMING FROM? YEAH. CAN Y’ALL GO IN THE LIVING ROOM? WE’RE GONNA HAVE A MEETING. CAN Y’ALL GO UP TO THE LIVING ROOM FOR A MEETING? MM-HMM. I’M ABOUT TO COME. SO, FIRST OF ALL, I WANT TO JUST APOLOGIZE TO EVERYBODY FOR THE OUTBURST I HAD EARLIER. I SHOULDN’T HAVE DID THAT. AND I APOLOGIZE TO YOU FOR BEING DISRESPECTFUL, AND I’LL MAKE SURE IT DON’T HAPPEN AGAIN. -WE ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY. -I ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY. THANK YOU. I ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY. CINDY, YOU DON’T HAVE NOTHING TO SAY? NO. SO, YOU DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT RIGHT NOW? I’M NOT ABOUT TO BE TALKING ABOUT IT STANDING UP. PULL Y’ALL UP SOME CHAIRS, AND SIT DOWN. [ LAUGHS ] SHELLY. LET’S TALK ABOUT THIS [BLEEP]. SO, LAST NIGHT WHEN WE DID THE 20 QUESTIONS, ONE OF MY QUESTIONS WAS, “HOW DO YOU FEEL CO-PARENTING?” CAN YOU GIVE ME YOUR RESPONSE AGAIN, SO EVERYBODY CAN HEAR IT? I’M OKAY WITH CO-PARENTING AS LONG AS IT’S ABOUT THE KIDS, BUT WHEN IT GOES FROM MORE THAN CO-PARENTING, THEN THAT’S WHEN I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH YOU. ARE WE TALKING ABOUT CO– WHAT ARE WE TALKING ABOUT? ‘CAUSE ITS STUFF THAT- I DON’T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. IF IT AIN’T ABOUT MY KIDS, I DON’T TALK TO HIM. Shelly: I DON’T FEEL LIKE THAT CINDY’S BEING HONEST RIGHT NOW. SHE’S HOLDING BACK, AND I’M TRYING MY BEST TO GET EVERYTHING I CAN, POSSIBLY, OUT OF HER. DO YOU LOVE YOUR KIDS’ FATHER? Cindy: WHAT DO YOU MEAN? DO YOU LOVE HIM? YES, I LOVE HIM, BUT I’M NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM. WHAT WAY YOU DO YOU LOVE YOUR BABY FATHER? I LOVE HIM BECAUSE HE’S THE FATHER OF MY KID. THERE WE GO. THAT’S WHAT WE WANT TO KNOW. I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH HIM. I TOLD JAMIAH IT WAS MORE GOOD [BLEEP] THAT JAMIAH HAS DONE FOR ME WITHIN LESS THAN A [BLEEP] YEAR THAN MY BABY DADDY HAS EVER DONE FOR ME. I HAD TO TELL MYSELF THAT MY KIDS DON’T DESERVE TO SEE ME LIKE THAT. MY DAUGHTER DON’T DESERVE TO SEE ME DOING [BLEEP] LIKE THAT. HE DID ALL THAT [BLEEP] TO ME, AND I STILL HAVE LOVE FOR HIM. AND I DON’T UNDERSTAND IT, BUT THAT’S JUST WHAT IT IS. I HAD TO FIGURE IT OUT. IF I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH HIM, I DON’T UNDERSTAND HOW YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THAT. HE’S BEEN TREATING ME LIKE A QUEEN. SO YOU THINK THAT I’M ABOUT TO GO BACK AND GET TREATED LIKE [BLEEP]? Shelly: YOU DIDN’T GIVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TIME TO BREATHE, TO NOTHING. YOU JUMP INTO A RELATIONSHIP. THE NEXT COUPLE OF MONTHS, YOU ENGAGED, AND NOW YOU’RE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED. LIKE, THIS IS A LOT. LIKE, Y’ALL — OH, MY GOD. BECAUSE I KNOW YOU LOVE CINDY, BRO. IT’S HANDS DOWN, BRO. AND I KNOW SHE LOVES YOU, BRO. Kim: BUT Y’ALL GOT SOME STUFF TO REALLY WORK ON. YEAH, Y’ALL GOT SOME STUFF TO HASH OUT. Y’ALL MAYBE NEED TO PUSH Y’ALL WEDDING OFF A LITTLE MORE SO Y’ALL CAN GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER. CAN I HOLD YOUR HAND? YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU. I KNOW I GOT, LIKE, A LOT OF FLAWS, AND I KNOW I DID THINGS TO SET US BACK. I KNOW I DID. BUT I’M DOING BETTER, THOUGH. I’M ALL ABOUT YOU. I’M COOL WITH YOU DOING YOUR CO-PARENTING. IT’S JUST THAT, I KNOW HOW THAT PERSON STILL FEELS ABOUT YOU. I HAVE TO WORK ON TRUSTING THAT SITUATION, AND I’M GONNA DO IT BECAUSE I WANT TO BE WITH YOU. WE BOTH HAD THINGS THAT WE DIDN’T WANT TO BE SAID. NOW THAT WE ALL GOT IT OUT, I HOPE THAT MEANS YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD NOW. LIKE, I FEEL LIKE ME AND YOU GOT A GOOD BOND, LIKE, FOR REAL. YEAH. I FEEL BAD, AND I WANT TO LET THE PAST BE THE PAST, AND NOW THAT I LET THAT GUARD DOWN, THAT I CAN START FRESH AND NEW WITH YOU. Jamiah: I KNOW IN MY HEART THAT I WANT TO MARRY YOU. I’M NOT ONLY MARRYING YOU. I’M MARRYING YOUR KIDS. I’M MARRYING INTO YOUR FAMILY. THAT’S SOMETHING I DO WANT TO DO. EVERYTHING THAT EVERYBODY TALKING ABOUT CAN BE FIXED. NO, IT’S NOT GONNA HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, BUT IT CAN BE FIXED, AND WE WILL. Cindy: YES. Tracy: HOW ARE YOU? WELCOME. HAVE A SEAT. HI. HI. SO, HERE WE ARE — DAY 3. HOW ARE YOU GUYS FEELING? I FEEL GOOD NOW. YOU DO? YEAH. HOW ABOUT YOU? TO BE ABLE TO HAVE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH JAMIAH, LIKE, I HAVE TO LET MY PAST GO. I WAS IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP FOR ALMOST 10 YEARS. WOW. I DON’T WANT TO SHOW THAT. AT THAT POINT, I FELT LIKE THAT I WAS WEAK, AND I DON’T WANT TO LOOK LIKE I’M WEAK. [ LAUGHS ] VULNERABLE ISN’T WEAK. VULNERABLE IS ACTUALLY STRONG. YEAH. I SHUT DOWN LIKE I ALWAYS DO. MY WALL CAME DOWN YESTERDAY. I FINALLY BROKE, AND I FELT LIKE THAT HELPED ME SO MUCH. LIKE, I FEEL LIKE I NOW CAN SHOW YOU THAT AFFECTION AND ALL THAT LOVE THAT I CAN GIVE YOU, AND I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU, TOO. AND I’M SORRY. IT’S OKAY. I ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY. NICE. I WANT TO SAY YOU GUYS ARE DOING SOME AMAZING WORK HERE. YOU’RE REALLY UNPACKING SOME REALLY SERIOUS STUFF. LIKE, YOU ARE WALKING OUT OF HERE DIFFERENT PEOPLE THAN YOU CAME IN. YES. I CAN SEE IT. SO, WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN NOW IS THAT YOU TWO ARE GONNA GO DOWNSTAIRS, GATHER THE FAMILIES, AND YOU’RE GONNA ASK FOR THE BLESSINGS. OKAY. HOW ARE YOU FEELING, GOING INTO THIS BLESSING CEREMONY? [ CHUCKLES ] JAMIAH, COULD YOU GO FORWARD WITH THE WEDDING WITHOUT YOUR FAMILY’S BLESSING? THE BLESSING MEANS A LOT. MM-HMM. UM… I DON’T KNOW. WHAT ABOUT YOU, CINDY? I DON’T KNOW. OKAY. I’M NERVOUS AS HELL ‘CAUSE I DON’T KNOW WHAT OUR FAMILY’S GONNA SAY. I’M HOPING THAT WE GET EVERYONE’S BLESSINGS, BUT I’M NOT SURE. I HOPE, SPENDING TIME TOGETHER… THEY UNDERSTAND THE LOVE WE HAVE FOR EACH OTHER. …THEY UNDERSTAND AND THEY HAVE A CHANGE OF HEART. SO, WE GOT TO HOPE FOR THE BEST. Cindy: WE WANT TO THANK EVERYONE FOR COMING. WE REALLY APPRECIATE YOU GUYS’ OPINION ON OUR RELATIONSHIP. SO WE’RE GONNA GO AROUND THE ROOM AND SEE WHO’S GONNA GIVE US THEIR BLESSING, STARTING WITH FINIS. SO, WHEN I FIRST ARRIVED, I ALREADY HAD IN MY HEAD THAT YOU GUYS WERE TWO BROKEN PEOPLE TRYING TO COME TOGETHER AND TRYING TO MAKE EACH OTHER WHOLE. AND YOU’RE A GOOD WOMAN, AND YOU DESERVE A GOOD MAN. AND HE IS A GOOD MAN. WHEN IT COMES TO YOU HAVING MY BLESSING… I’M GONNA SAY NO. YOU DO NOT HAVE MY BLESSING. YOU GUYS NEED TO GROW TOGETHER. AND IT’S POSSIBLE. WE SEEN THAT YOU GUYS CAN DO IT. WITH TIME, MARRIAGE COMES. SPARKLE? Y’ALL HAVE A LOT OF WORK TO DO. BUT I SEE GROWTH IN THE BOTH OF YOU GUYS. AND I AGREE FOR YOU GUYS TO BE A COUPLE AND LATER ON TO GET MARRIED. BUT AT THIS TIME… Y’ALL DON’T HAVE MY BLESSING. KIM? Kim: I LOVE Y’ALL, AND I’M GONNA ALWAYS BE THERE FOR Y’ALL. BUT JUST BEING HERE AND GETTING TO REALLY KNOW EVERYBODY, SEE EVERYBODY’S SIDE AND POINT OF VIEW OF Y’ALL RELATIONSHIP, I FEEL LIKE Y’ALL HAVE A LOT TO WORK ON. SO AT THIS MOMENT… Y’ALL DON’T HAVE MY BLESSINGS. I FEEL LIKE Y’ALL JUMPED INTO THIS HEADFIRST. I JUST FEEL LIKE Y’ALL WERE JUST TWO BROKEN PEOPLE THAT JUST NEEDED SOMEBODY. YOU GUYS DO NOT HAVE MY BLESSINGS. YOU GUYS HAVE A LOT OF TRUST ISSUES, AND THAT’S THE MOST IMPORTANT THING, BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED. [ VOICE BREAKING ] I LOVE YOU, CINDY, AND I JUST WANT YOU TO MAKE THE BEST DECISION, AND I WANT YOU GUYS TO BE TOGETHER, BUT I DON’T THINK THAT YOU GUYS ARE READY. YOU DON’T HAVE MY BLESSINGS. JAMIAH? YOU KNOW, I’M HAPPY FOR Y’ALL. I WANT Y’ALL TO BE TOGETHER, BUT I WANT Y’ALL TO GET MARRIED AND THEN DON’T GET DIVORCED IN THE WEEK. Y’ALL LOVE EACH OTHER. THAT MEAN Y’ALL CAN WAIT. YOU GUYS DON’T HAVE MY BLESSINGS. I REALLY THOUGHT THAT YOUR DAD WOULD GIVE US HIS BLESSING. NO ONE IS AGREEING WITH US BEING MARRIED, AND OUR WEDDING IS NEXT WEEK. I THINK WE MAKE OUR DECISION ON OUR OWN. I AGREE. SO, WE DECIDED… THAT WE’RE STILL GONNA GET MARRIED ON JULY 4th. THAT’S THE DECISION THAT WE MADE. I’M SHOCKED TO STILL HEAR THAT THEY’RE GONNA HAVE THE WEDDING. I THOUGHT AFTER ALL WHAT THEY WENT THROUGH IN THESE LAST FEW DAYS THAT THEY WOULD HAVE BEEN LIKE, “YOU KNOW, WE’RE GONNA PUT THE WEDDING OFF AND HEAL FROM WHAT JUST HAPPENED.” IT’S Y’ALL DECISION. I LOVE HIM. HE LOVES ME. I KNOW THAT WE HAVE A LOT TO WORK ON. LOOK, Y’ALL TAUGHT US A LOT. SO STUFF THAT Y’ALL TOLD US, WE’RE GONNA USE TO MAKE EVERYTHING BETTER BETWEEN US TO MOVE FORWARD. THAT’S GOOD. [ SNIFFLES ] AND AUNTIE, I KNOW AT FIRST YOU SAID YOU WASN’T GONNA COME TO THE WEDDING, SO I JUST WANT TO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL NOW. I’LL BE AT YOUR WEDDING. YAY! I LOVE YOU GUYS. I LOVE YOU, TOO. THEY’RE GONNA GO ON WITH THIS WEDDING… AND THERE’S NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT. THE REASON WHY I DECIDED TO ATTEND THE WEDDING, IT WAS BECAUSE I MADE A BREAKTHROUGH WITH CINDY’S SISTERS, AND HE NEEDS MY LOVE AND SUPPORT, SO I’M GONNA BE THERE FOR THE BOTH OF THEM, NO MATTER WHAT. YOU BETTER START COMING OVER MORE. I’M NOT PLAYING. Cindy: OKAY. Kim: IS THE MARRIAGE GONNA WORK? I DON’T KNOW. ONLY TIME WILL TELL. WE JUST HAVE TO SIT BACK AND SEE. HOW ARE YOU GUYS? WE’RE GREAT. [ LAUGHS ] SO, BABE, WE DOING THIS JULY 4th? -JULY 4th. -THEY DON’T BELIEVE IN US. THEY DON’T BELIEVE IN US, BUT THEY GONNA HAVE TO WAIT AND SEE. Tracy: REMEMBER WHEN YOU GUYS WERE BRAWLING ON DAY 1? [ LAUGHTER ] I MEAN, LOOK AT THIS FAMILY. WE’LL SEE THEM THERE. -THEY’LL BE THERE. -I AIN’T WORRIED. -I LOVE YOU. -I LOVE YOU, TOO. MUAH. Man: SMILES — 3, 2… [ CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS ]

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