6 Steps To Stress Free Wedding Planning – Top Tips!

Hi there, my name is Katherine and I run Giftast Wedding and Event Stationery. In addition to that I have also written the book, How To Plan Your Perfect Wedding: A Stress Free Guide To
Designing Your Big Day. Now, in the book we go through a couple of methods for
how to decide what you really really want out of your wedding, how you want it to feel, how you want it to look, in a way that represents you and your partner. In addition to that, what we also do is go through my six top tips for
stress-free wedding planning. Now, I previously worked as an executive
PA to some extremely disorganized individuals, so getting things organized
and making massive and impossible seeming jobs get done is one of the things that
I am skilled at, so I really wanted to share that with you. So this obviously
goes into a lot more detail in the book – we’ve got examples, we’ve got a list you
can download, but I wanted to just give you the rundown of the six top tips, so
hopefully they will help if you do feel like you’re struggling at the moment.
Okay, so tip one is: get everything down on paper. Now if you’ve been following
the book or if you’re just starting your wedding planning there’s a lot of
different things you have to think about and a lot of information swirling around
in your brain, so the best thing to do is get it all down on paper, make a massive
list, and do this over a couple of days. I always find when I’m making a list, even
though I’ve been thinking about it and I’ve got all these ideas in my head, as
soon as I look at that blank piece of paper, it’s completely gone. So if you sit
down, give yourself some time, get yourself a cup of tea or coffee – maybe
some wine – and have a chat with your partner, and just start thinking about
this, and once you start the ideas will flow, but they will keep coming to you so
if you give yourself a couple of days before you start working on this then
you’ve got time to tie in those loose ends. Those things that come to you in
the shower, while you’re cooking, while you’re in the bath, things like that. Or
just, you know, when you wake up in the middle of the night and it hits you that
you need flowers, or a certain type of flower or something like that, so I think
it’s really good to take your time over the first step of the process, and just
get everything down on paper. And I like to break my jobs down into fifteen
minute jobs – and I think it does make it look
like you’ve got a lot more to do, but it is so much easier to start chipping
away, because some of those jobs within your wedding planning list will be big
in themselves, and they can seem overwhelming. So if I take the stationary
example, because I am a wedding stationer, if you have 200 guests and you’ve got to
address 200 envelopes, split it down into smaller jobs. Do 25 in front of the TV, do
25 another day and do some on your lunch break – just break it down into 15 or
30-minute jobs, and then it’s all of a sudden you’re not having to carve 2 plus
hours out of your day to sort out your invites,you’ve just managed to fit them
in with all your other things. So, step number 2 is: decide what’s a priority and
make it non-negotiable. It’s one of those “Eat that frog” things
that they talk about. There are going to be jobs that you dislike more, whether
it’s doing your seating plans, something like that can be really stressful – or, you know,
anything else that you personally are not looking forward to about the aspect
of wedding planning. What is most important and what will move you on most
quickly – make that non-negotiable, figure out how you’re going to fit that into
your schedule, and start with that, because once you get those big bad jobs
out the way, everything else will become a lot more easy. And this whole process
is about making it as easy for you as possible. Okay, so step number three is:
get yourself a planner. Like I was talking about before with splitting
everything down into little jobs – and I personally am a planner addict
and I love them – so what I would recommend is finding a system that works
for you. If you don’t want to start a new planner or diary, then just a white board
with the week on, or you can download and print templates on word or on Google. I
have resources on the website and book for where you can find really great free
planner printables, and get yourself one of those and put in
everything. So let’s say you’ve got to do some cooking, got to clean the bathroom –
whatever you need to do on that day – go to Tesco, go to work –
pop it in there and then tick it off when you’re done, and you’ll see once
you’ve put in things you generally do and when you’re going out and things
like that into your planner, when you can just squeeze in tiny little bits of wedding
admin, and it’s not gonna be that hard for you to do. Like I say, things that you
can do in from the TV, if you know you could be tired but you still want to get
things done, what’s a nice job from your big list that you can just slot in there,
and you’ll still be getting that warm fuzzy glow of getting things done, but
you’ll not be stressing out about it. So that’s a really good tip that I find
very helpful, is getting everything in your planner and so you can move things
around, find out what works for you, when you’re gonna have a little bit of time.
It just helps you remember what you’ve planned to do, like if you’ve got
to post out invitations. I always forget whenever I have to post
a letter, because it’s something that seems to happen so rarely because
everything is online now, but if you’re mailing out traditional invitations, pop
it in your planner because otherwise you might forget to do it. I know that I
forgot for a couple of days when I was mailing out mine. Okay, step number four is:
challenge yourself. So, if you are getting in to the planner lifestyle and you find
that things aren’t taking you quite as long as you thought they would, or you’ve
got a spare day and you really want to crack on, sometimes it’s really nice to
just try and power through, and do as much as you can. So if you think, ‘oh,
actually maybe I could do 30 invitations or 50 invitations rather than 25’, even
just little things like that, just challenge yourself, see what you can get
in and it’s quite addictive and is – it may not sound like fun to you now, but for
me, and if you love the planner and the to do list lifestyle, then that is fun, and it
really does make you feel good when you go back to your massive to-do list and
you’re crossing all these things off and all of a sudden you realize you’ve
made a big dent, and you’re actually getting really close to getting all your
planning done. Okay, so then number five, which is even more important, is kind of
the opposite of challenging yourself, and it’s: cut yourself some slack. So this
is something I need to get better at, and life happens, stuff gets in the way,
you cannot always do everything you set out to do. So if something’s not working
out, there’s something that you wanted that you’re struggling to get hold of –
just allow yourself to let it go, and if you are feeling overwhelmed, and it
hasn’t helped with cutting your stress or you’re in a particularly stressful
situation, a stressful week at work, something like that, give yourself a day
off. Like, as I say, I’m a planner addict, and this is something I need to get
better at, so what I try and do is schedule in some fun! So I love romance
novels, I’m a big, big fan of romance. At the moment I’m reading Jenny Holiday, she’s
absolutely brilliant if you love romance give her a go. But I scheduled in
reading, because otherwise I won’t do it. So if it’s on the list, I have to, but it’s
kind of giving you permission to do the fun stuff. Again, if you’re not a planner addict
this may sound ridiculous, but if you do have these massive list of things to do,
then it’s something that’s really good to force yourself to do the fun stuff
that makes you relax as well, Say for example, my husband has a couple of weeks
off work, he’s got lots of things he wants to do around the house and garden, but my
suggestion to him was: put in things you actually want to do that’s fun and
relaxing as well, otherwise you’re just gonna work your whole holiday away, and
then you’ll just be even more tired when you go back to work. You know when you do
one of those really busy holidays and you end up going back to work for a rest –
well you don’t want to be doing that all the time. That’s where burnout
lies, that’s where stress happens, and so I love to try and plan in fun. And I love
organized fun, there’s nothing wrong with that.
So yeah, cut yourself some slack, allow yourself to not do the jobs sometimes.
Sometimes it just all gets a bit much. Okay so then step number six is: bask in
your own brilliance. Now, it’s really hard planning a wedding, it’s such a big job,
and especially if you’ve got no experience at events or something like
that, it’s just pressure, and it’s huge, you know it’s such a big thing and you
care about it and you want it to be perfect and not just for yourself or for your
partner, but for your family and friends as well,
and you are doing so well to be able to plan this. It’s such a big thing, and it’s
a big stress and responsibility, not to mention financial, as well, so you know
give yourself a pat on the back for all you have achieved. Even writing the list
is a big thing, so you know. keep that in mind that you’re doing really well.
Planning a wedding is hard but you are trying to do it in a way that makes
sense for you and that stresses you out as little as possible, and what is not to be
applauded in that? So those aren’t my six steps. So I’m gonna run through them
again: number one, get yourself a big list to get everything down on paper.
Number two: decide what is a priority and make it non-negotiable. Number three: get
yourself a planner. Number four: challenge yourself. Number five: cut yourself some
slack, and number six: bask in your own brilliance. So, do you have any tips for
stress-free wedding planning, are you a planner addict like me? What do you do to
get yourself out of the work treadmill, how do you relax, how do you cut yourself
some slack? What are your recommendations for helping yourself chill out and
unwind like my romance novels? I would love to hear what you think. If you want
to see more in detail, you can check it out on the blog or my book is currently
available for pre-order. It is called ‘How To Plan Your Perfect Wedding: A Stress-Free Guide To Designing Your Big Day, and at the moment it’s only £1.99 so get
yourself in there, give it an order, and let me know what you think. Thank you
very much.

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